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10 Things You Can Do to Deal With Depression

Dr Nga Tran - Psychiatrist
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As a psychiatrist I see people with depression every day.  Every depressed person is experiencing something different from another depressed person.  That’s because depression is not one thing, but a set of interacting emotions, thoughts and behaviours.

You may find you have more intensely sad or painful emotions, that your ability to find joy and humour is diminished, that you are on edge and tense,  that everything irritates you, or that it’s hard to get the motivation to do things.  There may be physical sensations such as fatigue, fogginess in your head, and changes in your sleep and appetite. 

You may find yourself more preoccupied with thoughts about negative events in your life, mulling over things you could have done differently or wrongs others have done to you. You may view yourself as unworthy or a failure, or view the future as bleak or hopeless.  Your mind may tell you there is no point in doing things.  It is not uncommon to have thoughts that you don’t want to continue living.

These thoughts and feelings may lead to changes in the things you do.  You may withdraw from friends and family.  You may stop doing things that have been a part of your routine. You may spend more time lying in bed or on the couch.  You may try to distract yourself by watching TV or doing unengaging activities on-line, or use alcohol or other drugs to feel better.

How Can I Deal With Depression

Take heart, however, as there are many things that you can do to intervene.  The state of depression is a pattern that develops over time, and becoming aware of your own pattern means that you can learn to manage it in the long term.

Here are ten things you can do which may help:

1. Allow yourself to feel the way you feel.

Society and social media would have you believe that something is wrong with you if you feel depressed.  Of course these feelings are unpleasant and you don’t have to like them, but they they are normal, common and we all experience them to various degrees.

2. Notice the feelings you have about feeling depressed.

Feeling depressed is unpleasant enough, but if you think you are not supposed to feel this, then you can become guilty, angry, sad or anxious about being depressed.  Just being ok about whatever  you feel can lessen these secondary emotions.

3. Become aware of your thoughts and don’t take them all as gospel.

Taking your thoughts at face value would be like heeding every piece of advice and advertisement you hear on the radio.  It’s more useful to know you are listening to the radio and hearing an advertisement.  You have thoughts but your thoughts are not you.  Many of our thoughts are automatic and just pop up, and may not be that helpful.  Seeing  your thoughts  for what they are gives you a chance to decide which ones to listen to. 

4. Put your efforts towards changing your actions rather than your thoughts and feelings.

We have the idea that we need sort out our thoughts and feelings first before we can make changes to our lives.  The research shows that it is the other way around, that the only part you can control are your actions - your thoughts and behaviour will change if you engage in different actions. Choose to do more of things that help, and less of things that make the problem worse in the long term.

5. Bring your attention to the present moment.

When you have lots of difficult thoughts and feelings, they can demand all your attention so that you go about your day in on auto-pilot. Expand your awareness  to  include what there is right here and now, using your five senses, and notice small details with openness and curiosity.  So you may notice feeling sad, as well as apprehensive as well as doubtful, as well as listening to the birds, seeing the trees, tasting your sandwich, noticing your friend’s face……

6. Set time aside to practice mindfulness.

There is nothing magical about mindfulness.  It is paying attention in a purposeful and open way. It is a skill that needs repeated practice, like running or swimming. You can practice mindfulness doing every day activities such as having a cup of coffee, brushing your teeth, washing dishes, walking and driving.  There are many great apps available with audio guides to assist you, including “Smiling Mind” and “ACT Companion”.

7. Connect with what is important to you.

Sometimes being depressed is so unwanted that you spend all your efforts trying to feel better, thereby behaving in ways that are at odds with what is important to you.  You may value meaningful relationships, nature, learning, or helping others.  Find opportunities to put these values into actions.  The things you care deeply  about are often on the flip side of what causes you pain or distress.  You may feel guilty about withdrawing from your family or not turning up to work – the flip side of that may be because you value connection and contribution.

8. Take lots of small steps repeatedly to build helpful habits.

Make changes in your behaviour in the direction of what you value, no matter how small that seems.  Lots of small actions in the right direction will be more helpful than setting big unrealistic goals, then feeling overwhelmed and guilty when you don’t do them.  Build helpful habits over time that will help you handle depression in the future when it comes around again.  Some of the most helpful habits are exercise, healthy eating and meaningful relationships, and they all take time and repeated actions.

9. Be grateful for what you do have, and do something for others.

Life can be extremely challenging at times, but in the midst of that we can usually find things that we can be grateful for ways to help others.  Research shows that actively fostering  gratitude and compassion can counteract depression, and that doing something for others boosts the giver’s happiness even more than the receiver’s.

10. Seek professional help if you are struggling.

This can include a whole range of allied health and medical professionals.  However be aware of quick fixes or grand promises. There is a role for prescription medications from your GP or psychiatrist.  However the evidence is that for mild to moderate depression, there are many other treatment options that work better than or as well as medication.  They include exercise, relaxation techniques, and a whole range of psychological treatments including cognitive behaviour therapy and mindfulness-based therapies such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.  The advantage of the non-drug treatments are that you have skills you can use throughout your life, and without the side effects.

In the end it is about respecting your preference and helping you be aware of all your options, and if required, using medications in the safest possible way while minimising side effects.



Dr Nga Tran

Psychiatrist and ACT therapist
The Possums Clinic
07 3036 4081

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